Management Hall of Fame: Leading Management Gurus
How to Win Friends and Influence People
"Don't criticize, condemn, or complain; give honest and sincere
appreciation, and arouse in the other person an eager want." (Dale
"Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes the furthest
is generally the one who is willing to do and dare." (Dale Carnegie)
Dale Carnegie's main focus is on dealing and motivating people successfully.
His common sense approach is easy to understand and apply in both personal
and business relationships. Dale Breckenridge Carnegie an American who
developed several famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship,
corporate training, public speaking and interpersonal skills. He
wrote one of the most popular books in history, and taught millions how
to achieve self-confidence and interpersonal social skills. Dale
Carnegie became an icon of 20th century America through his book and his
classes. His simple, yet effective, techniques for winning friends and
influencing people have proven enduring and become part of the American
The simple yet most powerful realization
is that criticism is counterproductive and will not to change or motivate people. In his view, people who are
criticized tend to respond by justifying themselves and condemning the
critical person in return.
Publication of How to Win Friends and Influence People.
A must read for every businessman and sales professionals. His rules
on how to win friends
- Show a genuine interest in other people.
- Be happy and positive
- Remember that people love hearing the sound of their own name
- Listen to other people and develop good listening skills.
- Talk about others' interests rather than your own.
- Give others a sincere sense of their importance.
How to win people to your way of thinking:
- To get the best of a situation, avoid arguments.
- Always listen to others' opinions and never tell anyone they are wrong.
- Admit it if you are wrong.
- Show friendliness.
- Make statements that the other person can agree with.
- Let the other person talk more than you.
- Make the other person feel that an idea is their own.
- See the other person's point of view.
- Show empathy for others' ideas and desires.
- Infuse some drama into your ideas.
- Appeal to the better nature of others
- Finish with a challenge.
How to change people without arousing resentment:
- Start with genuine praise and appreciation.
- Give people a reputation to maintain.
- Draw attention to people's mistakes gradually.
- Encourage people. Show them that their task is easy to correct.
- Admit that you have made mistakes and then talk to other people about
- Don't give direct orders but ask questions.
- Never humiliate anyone, and let people keep their pride intact.
- Use plenty of genuine praise and encouragement when there is the
- Suggest what you want them to do and make them happy about it.
How to become a good Public Speaker
- Preparation - Do not memorize the talk word for word, as you will be more likely to
- Delivery -
Dress the part for your speech. Smile, and make sure you are clearly
visible to your audience.
- Show respect and affection for the audience
- Let the first sentence capture their attention. Examples of techniques to
help you to achieve this are:
- start with a striking incident or example;
- state an arresting fact;
- ask for a show of hands;
- use an exhibit;
- do or say something to arouse suspense;
- promise to tell the audience how they can get something they want.
- Your talk should have some marked form of closure. Summarize what you have
said, then use a finalizing climax or close of some sort that is
appropriate within the context, for example:
- make an appeal for action;
- pay the audience a sincere compliment;
- raise a final laugh;
- use a fitting verse of poetry or a quotation.
How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie, Reissue. New York: Pocket Books,
- How To Enjoy Your Life And Your Job, by Dale Carnegie, New York: Pocket Books, 1986.
- How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (Personal Development),
by Dale Carnegie, Rev. ed. New York: Pocket Books,
- Public Speaking and Influencing Men in Business (From the author of 'How to Win Friends & Influence People'),
by Dale Carnegie, Association
How to Win Friends and Influence People, by
Dale Carnegie, A self-help book
about interpersonal relations. Simon and Schuster.
- How to Stop Worrying and Start Living (by Dale Carnegie); The Dukays (by Lajos Zilahy); Elizabeth, Captive Princess (by Margaret Irwin); It Gives Me Great Pleasure (by Emily Kimbrough); Little Annie Oakley and Other Rugged People (by Stewart H. Holbrook) ,
by Dale Carnegie, A
self-help book about stress management. Simon & Schuster.
- The Lincoln the Unknown By Dale Carnegie . A biography of Abraham
Lincoln. Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc.
- The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking . Principles and
practical implementation of expressing oneself before groups of people.
Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc.
- How to Develop Self-Confidence And Influence People By Public Speaking .
- Enrich your life the Dale Carnegie way by Arthur R. Pell. A book
describing how a variety of people have applied the principles that Dale
Carnegie and his successors have taught. Dale Carnegie & Associates,
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